Sudden changes, surprise developments, unexpected ups and downs in a person's life are actually great blessings specially created for him

I take this article from the harunyahya.net . beside this one article, you may find many more useful articles, books, journals etc at  the site. I recommended this site since the books, articles etc. available is a useful source for the further reading for the Islamic understanding. He(Harun Yahya) himself is also a well-known writer.

Article : Sudden changes, surprise developments, unexpected ups and downs in a person's life are actually great blessings specially created for him. - ENGLISH August 2010

Some people want to have very placid and steady lives. They dream to lead the life they are accustomed to without facing sudden and surprise developments, big ups and downs, until the end of their lives. Of course the reason of this preference of the mentioned people is that they assume this is the best for them. They presume that they will be happy in the extent that their lives are the same and placid, and that the minimum the order they are accustomed to changes, the more they will be happy. However this is not always a demand that would bring advantage to a person. Sometimes the order in a person's life, the stabilities in the life style do not provide the expected gain to that person. On the contrary the real gain for such a person would be the sudden developments, surprise incidents, big ups and downs. Since man has a limited wisdom, he can't know what exactly the real thing that would benefit him is. But Allah is the Owner of infinite wisdom. And Allah creates the ups and downs in the life of this world, sometimes the shortcomings of this life like difficulties, troubles, poverty and illnesses and sometimes the increases in the blessings, with a great wisdom. The human soul likes placidness, to live a life as he used to, in line with his expectations, without facing any big surprises. Of course there is a certain amount of comfort, peace and easiness those conditions provide for man. However the placidness, the stagnancy, the monotony and living in a routine life style has its own damages as well. One of the most important reasons why people like to live without stepping out of their habits is that this life style necessitates using their intelligence, wisdom, conscience and will in the minimum level. In such a life style a person attains the possibility of living a life without having to use his mind, without taking risks, without trial and error, within the rules he had memorized and approved after numerous tests by making minimum mistakes. The sudden changes, surprise developments, unexpected ups and downs are situations in which a person would need to use his mind in the maximum level. Under such conditions; having to use his mind in a speedy and serial manner, taking instant and rational decisions, finding out and applying the necessary precautions for the conditions to change, acting courageous and determined, taking risks, making life sustaining attempts become almost indispensible necessities. For a person with normal intelligence it is generally not possible to act indifferent, calm and uninterested in the face of troubles and difficulties. He inevitably starts looking for ways to get out of these materialistic and spiritual difficulties. In that moment, most people may not be aware of a very important fact. However the tough conditions people are in; the sudden developments that violate their order; that cause them to abandon their routine; that keeps them apart from the placid lives they used to have, are actually great blessings created for them. This is because the human soul, when left on its own, does not have a structure that could develop on its own. It can only make progress when worked hard with patience and strong will. And these surprises Allah creates in a man's life, the sudden downs, surprise ups, imperative changes are very important and influential ways for that person to make very fast-track progress. No matter how much a person would want to train and improve himself, he cannot create such unexpected changes in his life on his own. However the natural strain developing under such conditions almost obligates a person to use his power in the highest possible level. Consequently –even if his lower self dislikes that at that moment or even if he faces real difficulties- those incidents he lives through turn out to be great blessings for him. It is very difficult to make change in personality unless one faces a determined pressure from inside or outside. To make such changes a person should behave seriously strong-willed. He has to use his intelligence and conscience very seriously and be very resolute and patient. Such changes Allah creates as the necessities of the test He puts man through, provide great convenience to him in this respect. They become instrumental in him making fast alterations and improvements in his personality. For that reason, instead of being in search of things he is used to have in his life and being uncomfortable when something is missing, a person should see the prosperity and wisdom in those changes Allah creates and should try to embrace the beauties in them. For instance a person might be living in a location very near to his work, his relatives, his friends or his school and might be very happy because of the order he had established in his live and the conveniences and comfort it provides him. When he is obliged to move from that place out of a sudden necessity, he becomes disturbed because he would lose the comfort he is used to have in many matters and face various difficulties. However the place he will move next has been created especially for him. There are special events, new friends, new progresses awaiting for him there. In that location, Allah might "provide him from places he least expects, increase his means, create progress and blessings for him." Or it might be the exact opposite and that person might face difficulties and troubles he had never faced before in his life. But as the result of this strain his personality will develop; he would find the means to outdo himself in many points he was inadequate before and to attain new abilities and specialties. Or it could be that a person who is not that extravert and talkative, who is not able to communicate easily with others, who cannot act comfortably, had found the solution in living a simple life and in never establishing a dialogue with anyone unless it is absolutely necessary. And within this order he established he might both be comfortable and extricate himself from taking risks. When such a person is given a responsibility at his school or his workplace which requires him to communicate with people one by one, he would think that he is facing a –supposedly- disaster. This is indeed a difficulty and a problem for a person like that. But that person could only be obliged to change his personality under such an imposition. If he is left alone and lead the placid life he is accustomed to, he might not change himself until the end of his life and thus never become a talkative and extravert person. A person can never know any of these. But Allah knows all of those and everything else beyond. And He creates the best for man. A person should trust Allah very deeply and –no matter what happens- even if it is the biggest shortcoming, the biggest difficulty on earth, he should be aware that there are thousands of goodness and wisdom hidden in all of those. Allah promised man the best of everything both in this world and in the Hereafter when he becomes aware of this truth: Those who have taqwa of Allah are asked, ‘What has your Lord sent down?’ their reply is, ‘Good!’ There is good in the world for those who do good, and the abode of the Hereafter is even better. How wonderful is the abode of those who have taqwa. (Surat An-Nahl: 30) ... It may be that you hate something when it is good for you and it may be that you love something when it is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know. (Surat Al-Baqara: 216)

malu itu...

that day i bought this one majalah...SOLUSI...
there's this one artikel...membahaskan pasal sifat malu...
ada 4 hadis utama wat berkaitan sifat malu dan kelebihannya..malah Imam Nabawi sdiri telah conclude bahawa "Berkata para ulama: hakikat malu itu ialah satu akhlak yang meninggalkan yang buruk dan menghalang diri drpd mengabaikan hak kepada yang sepatutnya"

Hadis pertama ialah. Daripada Ibn Umar r.a bahawasanya Rasulullah(SAW) melewati seorang sahabat ansar yang menasihati seorang saudaranya kerana pemalu, kemudian Rasulullah(SAW) bersabda maksudnya ' biarkanlah ia begitu, sesungguhnya malu itu sebahagian drpd iman' (Riwayat Al-Bukhari dan Muslim)
tegas dan ringkas je pesanan Rasulullah (SAW)...sifat ini kalau didifahami dgn baik..insyaAllah akn membawa kpd pengukuhan dan penambahan iman.

Hadis kedua, Daripada 'Imran bin Hushain r.a. berkata Rasulullah(SAW) bersabda yang bermaksud 'Malu itu mendatangkan kebaikan semata-mata'..malah dlm Riwayat Muslim pun dikatakan 'Semua malu itu adalah baik'.(Riwayat Al-Bukhari dan Muslim)
see..Nabi sdiri tegaskan bahawa malu hanya membawa kepada kebaikan je..malu kpd Allah akan menyebabkan kita meninggalkan perkara mungkar..malu kepada manusia akan memelihara kita dri bt perkara2 wat akan menyakitkan hti orang..malu kepada diri sdiri akan menyebabkan kita menjauhi perkara wat akan mengaibkan diri kita..ok?

Hadis ketiga..Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a. bahawasanya Rasulullah(SAW) bersabda yang bermaksud 'Iman itu mempunyai enam puluh lebih atau tujuh puluh lebih cabang. Yang paling utama ialah ucapan La ilaha illallah dan yang paling tendah ialah membuang sesuatu dri jalan. Dan malu adalah sebahagian drpd iman' (Riwayat Al-Bukhari dan Muslim)
so...hadis ini lagilah menyokong sifat malu..dalam byk2 cabang iman..malu adalah sebahagian daripadanya...MasyaAllah...malu adalah sifat yang membawa kepada kebaikan..malah sifat yang membawa kepada amalan yang ia sendiri merupakan sifat wat berdiri dgn sendirinya!

Hadis keempat..Daripada Abu Said al-Khudri, beliau berkata "Rasulullah(SAW) adalah orang yang paling pemalu melebihi pemalunya seorang gadis pingitan. Apabila Baginda melihat sesuatu yang tidak disukainya maka kami akan dapat mengetahuinya melaui wajahnya." (Riwayat Al-Bukhari dan Muslim)
hadis ini jelas menggambarkan kat kita tentang peribadi Rasulullah (SAW) yang amat indah peribadinya. even salah seorang sahabat Baginda,Abu Said al-Khudri menyatakan bahawa Rasulullah(SAW) lebih pemalu dari dibandingkan dengan anak dara yang malu ketika pertama kali bersendirian bersua dengan suaminya. Malah sahabat-sahabat sendiri blh mengetahui dri riak wajah Baginda ketika Baginda melihat perkara yang Baginda tidak disukainya.

lagi..korang igt x akan satu ayat kat dalam Al-Quran wat menyebut psl 'jika tiada sifat malu dalam diri perempuan itu, maka buatlah sesuka hatinya'. Truthfully ak x sure akan ayat full ni...tp ak igt dia membicarakan pasal aurat or adab kita sesama ajnabi dengan bukan ajnabi. x pe..nnt kalau ak ingat kat surah mane, ak post ok?

so korang..ada sifat malu x merugikan ape2 pun.malah untung ade la..nnt kalau kita malu kat orang, means nnt kita akan lebih besemangat x nk bt the same thing lg wat akan mengundang malu kita kat orang kan? kan bagus tu...kalau kita rasa malu kat Maha Pencipta sebab bgn solat Subuh lewat, solat lambat2, jarang jawap azan..insyaAllah nnt, sebagai manusia kita akan slalu baiki diri kita... maka akan lebih mendekatkan diri kita kat Allah(SWT)
korang...x rugi tau kita malu...ak pun mudah rs malu...and aku knl beberapa kawan ak wat ada sifat malu ni. ..malu ini nanti akan jadi perisai kita, sbgai golongan hawa tau..

P/S: ak slalu fail tgk mata orang time becakap..tp depends gak..kalau non-ajnabi...ok je... ^^

a dream to reach within

hm....dah agak lame dah ak x citer psl dream ak kat orang len...mungkin sbb ak malu kot..haha...segan pun ye jgk..yela..kalu aku ckp, " wei korang thu x...dream ak ialah...ak nk jd tour guide...bwk org kliling dunia..." msti org akan ckp.." la...dah apasal mu ambek dentistry..bkpo x ambek international relationship je..." :| JERK!!!
ak pantang btul kalu ak jumpa manusia2 wat memperlekehkan cita2 mulia orang lae ni...
ok...stop talking about that...but yes..my dream is to be a tour guide and to visit every single country in the world..wahhh....gaya princess diana g2...haha...kalu ak kawen ngan prince brunei bru ak jd mcm princess diana..haha..but not the assassination part ok?!
oh...thirah....get real!!
ok..ak dream to be a tour guide since 15 or younger kot...x ingt tp ak btul2 pgg dream ni agk lame... so bioe org kata kat ak...get real la thirah..nsib ko nnt, hri2 ngadap gg org..tp ak x thu nk describe mcm mane..but i got this feeling...i will not JUST be a dentist..(insyaAllah) i will also be someone else...(er...tp ak x bipolar ok! or schizo) i just dpt rs mcm tu...
enough about that...

p/s: row row row the boat...gently down the stream..
      merrily merrily merrily...life is but a dream...

oh....aim ak ke mane??

hm...actually arini ak ada a few qs utk ak taye diri ak..nice to know..ak student this one faculty wat ak X PENAH pikir nk jejak pun...but somehow tickling my days with the seniors, classmate and dean today...ak somehow wondering..why am i here?? what is actually my aim when ak enter this fac but why this course!!! ape aim ak dlm sehari2 ak hidup ni..ye la..of coz aim kita sebagai manusia nk hambakan diri kat Allah...tp ak still don't get it when ari tu ak terclick the application for this fac and why ak bargain about this fac to my bro and family...

ape fokus ak sebenarnye...arini..ak dgr kat radio pg2 kul 7++ kat ikim.fm kita kn ada fokus dlm life ni. the penceramah bg contoh...kat this one paper ad satu je titik hitam and that paper is innocently plain white colour. all students, when are being asked about what they see at the paper, they say that they saw a tiny little dot..then it happened that this sorg budak..angkat tangan and kata dia nmpk ketas a4 putih.see the difference...how an aim in our life akan change our every little view we have towards somthing....so ape ek ak aim???hm.. :(

nk thu x...td pun kat radio...the same penceramah stress that the 1st sight love is not quite exist..(er..asal ak wat msuk contoh nih...ei !!!!!) actually it all start with the 1st impression you made to someone.kita msti kata 1st impression is everything it is...btul...bab kalau kita dah aim kat that someone...everything kita nampak adalah ape wt kita nk nmpak...see?? kalau kita nk nmpk that someone always smile at you, you will...kalau kita nk tgk dia order same food as we did, we will.. kalau kita nk nmpk ari ni dia pakai same shirt color as we do, we will..crazy kan...how our mind work..amazing x??x caya try la.. tp aim la dulu..

so sum up all, kita CHOOSE to see what we want to see..  then mulalah kita kata tu love at 1st sight la..korg dah jupa crush barula.hati bedebar...tgn peluh2...tido asyik mimpi dia la...bla...bla...haha..wei the one that working the muscle of tgn, adrenaline, visual image all tak ke brain ke...sape punyer....korang punyer.....

so tulah....we choose what we want to be, we aim at it straigtforward and go strive for it...sbb x rugi kalau kita strive at something even when everyone kata that's impossible la....bab sebab this same reason la jgk mentol ada, Istanbul Islam punyer, Perang Khandak kita menang and just don't forget....ples..ALLAH slalu ad dgn kita walau time tu kita x igt kat DIA lgsg.....so see?? you never alone..even when everybody leave you, kita still ad ALLAH and kalau kita kita beriman dlm erti sbnr2 nya.. org2 mukmin yang khusyuk solatnya pun bersama kita...cuma kita x penah sedar.

InsyaAllah..

STORY TIME

I have  copied and pasted others articles i got through when i browsed internet for quite some time.
what now...i want to share a little story i got when i watch numbers of movies today..(having a lot of time,eh..)

1. three idiots..starred Amir Khan, Kareena Kapoor and all

Some say that we have to struggle hard to gain success.

This story teaches me the opposite.

We have to have passion to do things we most like

Things where our passion lay on

Only then the success finds the way to us

We have to achieve excellence so that we gain success

Contoh kan...

Look at Albert Einstein

He did countless experiments to achieve a bulb

He had passion on the making of the bulb

He had passion in the physic field

Tengok lagi kat Leonardo di Caprio

He know that the literature development during his period( Renaissance ke...or before) is under development

But still

He created a phenomenon with the Romeo and Juliet and all the creative dramas

Sometime….

Our passion is unacceptable by both parents and society

Why go against them eh…( x de keje kan…)

But what for if you do things you are not enjoyed with

As for me

Human can change over time

They may get angry with us and all

But still they are human

They may have little or more humanity in them

……(only robot and monster have no humanity)

But sometime we are confused over somethings

The things may be as big as deciding the soul mate or as small as choosing ice cream favours

We want all choice but were asked to make sole choice

No bargain there

Hence a verse from Surah Al- Baqarah in Al-Quran Al-Karim crossed my mind

It is not always the bad things is bad for us and not always the good things is good for us

It can be either way

Allahuakbar….Maha Mendengar Maha Mengetahui

P/S : Pesanan orang tua…

Jangan putuskan hubungan kita dengan Allah dan orang tua…x kisah la apa situasi pun...

Well easy to say than to practice eh….well I want to challenge you all( include myself)

Seek the passion and go for it

(since I have no real passion on anything,I do hope I found one or more real soon….i want to enjoy life to the fullest before anything)

More reviews will follow up soon….  J

Types of Mental Illness

as always, this article is not mine.

however I do hope you will enjoy it since I feel good when i share  it...

http://fresharticles.info/articles/other/types-of-mental-illness-43.txt

Mental illnesses are conditions that affect the mind and contribute to maladaptive behaviors, and they are generally classified by the mental faculty affected and the symptoms presented. Sometimes there can be some overlap between classes because different mental illnesses are often co-morbid with each other, but regardless of classification, all types of mental illness can significantly interfere with daily living. According to modern classification, the more common types of mental illness include anxiety disorders, mood disorders, psychotic disorders, eating disorders, impulse control and addiction disorders, and personality disorders.(so many disorder meh…)

Anxiety disorders are characterized by an excessive reaction of fear to certain situations. People with anxiety disorders might feel accelerated heartbeat, shaking and sweating when coming into contact with the source of their anxiety. Some examples of anxiety disorders are generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, panic disorder, social anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Mood disorders affect the way people experience emotions over a period of time. It’s normal to experience a range of emotions at different times of our lives, but people with mood disorders might feel chronically sad or unusually manic. Mood disorders include depression and bipolar disorder.

Psychotic disorders distort the way people think and perceive reality. People with psychotic disorders often experience hallucinations and delusional beliefs, like hearing voices or believing that someone is after them. Examples of psychotic disorders are schizophrenia and delusional disorder. Sometimes symptoms of a psychotic disorder can result from taking drugs or having physical head or brain injury.

Eating disorders involve distorted eating patterns and attitudes about food and weight. People with eating disorders often have an unrealistic body image and an obsession with achieving that ideal, but eating disorders can involve eating too much as well as eating too little or purging to lose weight. Common eating disorders are anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder.

Impulse control and addiction disorders are characterized by giving into impulses and engaging in behavior that can be harmful to the patient and to others. People can have addictions to specific behaviors as well as substances. Addiction disorders include alcoholism, compulsive gambling and sexual addiction.

Personality disorders affect a person’s disposition in such a way that their personality negative impacts the various areas of their life, like work and social relationships. They might exhibit extreme forms of certain personality traits, like being unusually introverted or overly sensitive to criticism. Examples of personality disorders are antisocial personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder.

Less common types of mental illness are dissociative disorders, somatoform disorders, sexual disorders and many others.

 

Dissociative disorders involve a distortion of consciousness and memory.(er….. ) 

Somatoform disorders are psychological conditions in which people experience physical symptoms with no known cause.(sihir kah….) 

Sexual disorders can involve inappropriate sexual desires and behavior and the classification includes gender identity disorder, which has created controversy for considering transsexualism a disorder. 

HOWEVER!!!!!!!

The way we categorize types of mental illnesses is constantly changing, and disorders don’t always fall so neatly into the categories that exist. (hm…..suka2).As psychology learns more about the nature of mental illnesses, the way we classify types of mental illness could change significantly in the future.

This article is taken at http://www.successcds.net/Articles/Know-your-Learning-Style.php

....now I'm wonder what is my type,...

k.enjoy...!

'A learning style is a way of learning. YOUR preferred learning style is the way in which YOU learn best. Three learning styles that are often identified in students are the Auditory Learning Style, the Visual Learning Style, and the Tactile(Sense of Touch - tangible). Read about each of these learning styles to identify YOUR preferred learning style.

Are you an Auditory Learner?

Auditory Learners learn best when information is presented in an auditory language format. Do you seem learn best in classes that emphasize listening to teacher lectures and class discussions? Does listening to audio tapes help you learn better? Do you find yourself reading aloud or talking things out to gain better understanding? If YES, you are probably an Auditory Learner.

Are you a Visual Learner?

Visual Learners learn best when information is presented in a written language format or in another visual format such as pictures or diagrams. Do you do best in classes in which teachers do a lot of writing at the Blackboard, provide clear NOTES, and make extensive use of an overhead projector? Do you try to remember information by creating pictures in your mind? Do you take detailed written notes from your textbooks and in class? If YES, you are probably a Visual Learner.

Are you a Tactile Learner (Sense of Touch – tangible)?

Tactile Learners learn best in hands-on learning settings in which they canphysically manipulate something in order to learn about it. Do you learn best when you can move about and handle things? Do you do well in classes in which there is a lab component? Do you learn better when you have an actual object in your hands rather than a picture of the object or a verbal or written description of it? If YES, you are probably a Tactile Learner.

Your learning style is your strength . First – Think about it, Take help of your parents or friends to identify what your learning style is . Go with it whenever you can. When you can choose a class, try to choose one that draws heaviest on your learning style. If you are given an option to choose to choose your teacher, try to choose one who's teaching method best matches your learning style. When you choose a professional career and future career, keep your learning style firmly in mind. And here is an unconditional Guarantee - your whole life will be better. Stop Reading here. Think……Think….Think – Pick up your Notebook or writing pad and start writing in clear words “MY LEARNING STYLE”

About me – I am a Visual Learner. I love reading and I grasp / understand things easily when I read or see a picture or diagram. I am not an Auditory Learner as my mind gets distracted easily listening to Lectures or audio tapes. I am also not a Tactile Learner as I am not comfortable with actually handling things.

What is your Learning Style?

pardon...the 'I' stated above is NOT ME. 
it belongs to the writer of the article.
whatever, dig out your learning style.it helps you approve...insyaAllah.